How to Find a Conscious Partner

Many of our clients often ask us, “How can I attract a conscious partner into my life?” This blog post is dedicated to answering that question.

What is a Conscious Partner?

A conscious partner is someone who is self-aware, emotionally mature, and committed to personal growth. They are willing to engage in open and honest communication, take responsibility for their actions, and respect their partner's boundaries. A conscious partner understands that relationships require effort and is willing to put in the work to make them thrive. Here are the seven qualities to look for in a conscious partner:

1. Self-awareness: A conscious partner has a good understanding of their strengths, weaknesses, and emotional triggers. They are willing to take responsibility for their actions and are open to feedback.
2. Empathy: A conscious partner is able to put themselves in another person's shoes and understand their feelings and perspectives.
3. Honesty and vulnerability: A conscious partner is comfortable being vulnerable and honest with themselves and their partner. They are willing to share their thoughts and feelings, even if it means being uncomfortable.
4. Communication skills: A conscious partner is able to communicate effectively and respectfully with their partner. They are able to express their needs, wants, and boundaries clearly, and are also able to listen actively to their partner.
5. Open-mindedness: A conscious partner is open to new ideas, experiences, and perspectives. They are willing to learn and grow, both individually and as a couple.
6. Commitment to personal growth: A conscious partner is committed to their own personal growth and development. They are willing to put in the time and effort to work on themselves, whether it's through therapy, meditation, journaling, or other self-improvement practices.
7. Respect for others: A conscious partner is respectful of their partner's feelings, needs, and boundaries. They are willing to compromise and make sacrifices when necessary to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

The First Step Toward Finding a Conscious Partner: Cultivate Self-Awareness

We have noticed a huge spiritual awakening in the Ambiance Matchmaking community. Singles come to us seeking a life partner that has spiritual depth and the desire to build a conscious relationship that fosters personal growth and development. Since its founding in 2002, Ambiance Matchmaking has taken a holistic approach to matchmaking. Our team encourages singles to develop their mental, physical, and spiritual beings in order to attract the right partner and flourish in their relationship. Becoming self-aware and nurturing your true essence is the key to attracting your ideal partner.

Your true essence is your basic, real, and invariable nature. It’s who you were as a child. When you’re born, you’re not just a physical body, you’re an energetic being. Take a moment and look back at your childhood photos. What did you look like? What did you like to do? How would you describe yourself?

You were born with a unique mind, body, and spirit. Who you are right now may be very different. You may have followed a path that led you to become a different person than who you were as a child. Maybe you experienced a bad relationship, or you simply didn’t like yourself as a child. You changed and evolved into who you are today. Achieving mind-body-spirit balance involves bringing you back to your true nature and who you are at your core. When you return to your natural state of being, you can achieve balance and attract your ideal partner.

The Key to Finding a Conscious Partner: Healing Your Mind, Body, and Spirit

The first step toward returning to your true nature and reaching balance is to heal your physical body. Everything impacts your physical body; thoughts, emotions, food, and lifestyle. When you establish boundaries by avoiding negative thoughts, food, people, movies, and music, for example, you can create space for more positive things in your life, such as a healthy diet, exercise, sleep, friends, family, meditation, journaling, and nature.

Once you restore balance to your physical body, your energetic body will flourish. You will naturally begin to feel better in your mind; thoughts, feelings, and emotions will improve. Your passion, zest, drive, and motivation for life will return. This leads to improved energy, which radiates from within and can be felt by others. In other words, you are on your path to attracting your ideal partnership. It sounds simple, but this requires a great amount of work and self-discipline. You must be able to look at yourself without judgment, both your light and your darkness, to see who you truly are. Only then can you overcome your imbalances and step into your higher self, and ultimately your higher relationship.

Once you reach balance, aka your highest self, two things happen. First, you understand who you are and the type of partner you need to complement your true self. Second, you feel whole and can fully give yourself in your new and balanced relationship.

Embracing Conscious Relationships: Insights from Osho and Anthony De Mello

Now that we have a solid foundation for achieving balance and returning to our true nature, we can begin to explore how to find a conscious partner who aligns with our authentic selves. The teachings of Anthony De Mello and Osho provide valuable insights into the nature of love, relationships, and consciousness. By integrating these teachings into our search for a conscious partner, we can cultivate awareness, compassion, and authenticity in ourselves and our relationships. Let's delve deeper into these teachings and see how they can guide us on our journey to finding a conscious partner.

Finding a conscious partner can be a daunting task for those who seek a deeper, more meaningful relationship. Often, we get caught up in external factors like physical appearance, social status, or financial stability, and overlook the essential qualities that make a person truly compatible with us. In this article, we will explore some insights from the teachings of Anthony de Mello and Osho on how to find a conscious partner and create a fulfilling relationship.

Insight #1: Self-Awareness is Key

Both de Mello and Osho stress the importance of self-awareness in finding a conscious partner. According to de Mello, "Unless you know yourself, you cannot love another." Similarly, Osho emphasizes the need to be "in love with yourself" before you can love someone else fully. Self-awareness allows you to understand your values, beliefs, and priorities, and choose a partner who aligns with them.

Self-awareness also helps you identify any patterns or tendencies that may be hindering your ability to create healthy relationships. For example, if you tend to attract partners who are emotionally unavailable or have commitment issues, self-awareness can help you recognize these patterns and work towards changing them.

Insight #2: Let Go Of Attachments

Another crucial aspect of finding a conscious partner is letting go of attachments. Osho argues that attachment is the opposite of love, as it stems from fear and insecurity. To find a conscious partner, you must be willing to release your attachment to superficial qualities like appearance or social status and focus on deeper connections based on shared values and mutual respect.

Letting go of attachments also involves being open to new experiences and people. Sometimes, we get stuck in our comfort zones and limit our potential for growth and connection. By letting go of attachments, you open yourself up to new opportunities and relationships that may be more fulfilling and rewarding.

Insight #3: Communication Is Key

De Mello emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication in relationships, stating that "the greatest distance between two people is misunderstanding." A conscious partner is willing to communicate their feelings, needs, and boundaries clearly, and listens actively to their partner's perspective. Osho adds that communication should be free of judgment or blame, creating a safe and supportive space for both partners to express themselves.

Effective communication also involves being present and mindful in your interactions with your partner. In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get distracted or caught up in our own thoughts and emotions, which can lead to misunderstandings or conflict. By practicing mindfulness and staying present, you can create deeper connections and understanding in your relationship.

Insight #4: Embrace Imperfection

Finally, both de Mello and Osho stress the need to embrace imperfection in ourselves and our partners. De Mello states that "The perfect love affair is one that is conducted entirely by post." In other words, no one is perfect, and relationships require forgiveness and acceptance of each other's flaws. Osho argues that "Love is not a relationship, it is a state of being." This means that love is not dependent on external factors like physical appearance or social status, but rather a state of mind and heart.

Embracing imperfection also involves recognizing that relationships require work and effort to maintain. It's easy to get caught up in the early stages of infatuation and overlook the challenges that may arise later on. However, a conscious partner is willing to put in the work to make the relationship thrive, even during difficult times.

Insight #5: See Your Partner With New Eyes

We all have a lens through which we see the world; and this lens is filtered by our attachments, beliefs, and fears. This is normal, we all do it. However, things get tricky when we create expectations based on these attachments, beliefs, and fears. When people and things don’t fit those expectations, as they inevitably won’t, we feel anxiety, fear, and disappointment. 

Do you see your partner for how he or she really is? Or do you see him through the lens of your expectations for how you think he should be? And when he inevitably does not match your expectations, are you left feeling angry, sad, or disappointed? There is another way to live that does not involve so much suffering.

First, we need to understand that these attachments, beliefs, and fears were programmed into us as children from our family and society. And second, we can learn to deprogram ourselves and shed pre-existing beliefs about how people and things should be, and accept them for how they are. Because it is our attachments to how we think people and things should be that prohibit us from having a wider and more varied taste.

Take a moment to see your partner without labels, ideas, expectations, beliefs, and fears. When you say to your partner, “I leave you free to be yourself,” then all of your attempts to get the other person to fit into your preconceived notions of what he or she should be fade away, and you have set YOURSELF free. You are now ready to love because love can only exist in freedom.

We can reprogram old habits and cultivate awareness through the following practices:

• Spend hours observing your ideas, habits, attachments, and fears without judgment, and you’ll notice they will start to weaken.
• View things and people with fresh eyes, without preconceptions. 
• Look at each potential partner with fresh eyes, as if you’re seeing her for the first time, without conditioning, without what you wish he would be. What do you see?

Insight #6: Love With Conscious Awareness

We can learn to love ourselves and our partners with conscious awareness. It is a practice of a lifetime and includes the following five steps:

1. Love is not an emotion or a feeling, but a state of being that we can choose to cultivate within ourselves.
2. To experience love, we must be present in the moment and aware of ourselves, our partners, and our surroundings.
3. Fear is the root of all of our problems in love, including jealousy, possessiveness, and insecurity. To overcome fear, we must be willing to take risks, be vulnerable, and trust in the power of love.
4. Love is not about possessing another person or trying to control them. Rather, it’s about allowing each person to be free and express themselves fully.
5. Love is not just a personal experience, but a spiritual path. By cultivating love, we can connect with the divine and experience a sense of oneness with the universe.

Building Habits To Attract A Conscious Partner

Building a fulfilling and conscious relationship requires more than just finding the right person. It also involves becoming the best version of yourself, which can be achieved through practices such as meditation, journaling, and volunteering. These three activities are not only beneficial for your personal growth but can also attract conscious partners who share similar values and interests.

1. Meditation: Practicing meditation can help you become more mindful and aware of your thoughts and emotions. This self-awareness can make you more emotionally stable and confident, which are attractive qualities in a partner. Additionally, meditation can help you develop a sense of inner peace and contentment, which can make you less needy or clingy in relationships.
2. Journaling: Journaling can be a helpful tool for self-reflection and personal growth. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you gain clarity on what you want in a partner and in a relationship. It can also help you identify any patterns or negative behaviors that may be sabotaging your relationships. When you have a better understanding of yourself, you are more likely to attract a partner who is a good match for you.
3. Volunteering: Volunteering is a great way to meet like-minded people who share your values and interests. When you volunteer, you are also demonstrating your compassion and altruism, which can be attractive qualities in a partner. Additionally, volunteering can help you develop a sense of purpose and fulfillment outside of a romantic relationship, which can make you more confident and self-assured.

Conclusion

In conclusion, attracting conscious and meaningful relationships requires a combination of inner work and external actions. By cultivating self-awareness through practices like meditation and journaling, individuals can gain clarity on their values and priorities, and become more intentional in their interactions with others. Additionally, engaging in acts of service and kindness through volunteering can expand one's perspective and bring new connections into their life. As Anthony de Mello said, "Awareness is the power that is concealed within the present moment." By staying present and aware in our relationships, we can deepen our connections with others and ourselves. And as Osho reminds us, "Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation." By approaching our relationships with a mindset of appreciation and respect, we can create more conscious and fulfilling connections with those around us. So, let us continue to do the inner work and show up in the world with an open heart and mind, ready to connect with others in meaningful ways. What will you do today to cultivate more conscious and fulfilling relationships in your life?

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