Chapter 7: Best Practices For A Positive Matchmaking Experience
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Congratulations, you’ve chosen a matchmaker and you’re embarking on a very exciting and enlightening journey! Good matchmakers do their best to listen and know you, understand what kind of person will compliment you, offer ground advice, and support you in your goals. It’s called a matchmaking process for a reason, and it’s important to enter into the process with a particular mindset. Singles who are patient, open, and optimistic have the highest success rate in the matchmaking process.
Be Patient
Dedicate the entire length of your membership to learn more about yourself, what you need in a partner, and ultimately finding that person. Do not rush, rather, enjoy the dating process. There are two major reasons for this. First, people pick up on others’ energy, and your dates will most likely sense if you are anxious to jump into a relationship. Desperation for a relationship is never a positive quality. Second, matchmaking is a process, and many matchmakers might not get it right on the first (or second) date. This is completely normal. So, do not be discouraged if your matchmaker doesn’t find your husband or wife immediately. There is a reason most memberships last for one year; matchmaking is a process. Give your matchmaker sufficient time to get to know you and then find matches that are best suited to you.
Be Open To Possibilities
We have a common saying here at Ambiance Matchmaking, “Be stubborn about your values and flexible about your criteria.” When it comes to dating, personal values are non-negotiable. Getting clear on what’s important to you will make for a more efficient dating process. It becomes your blueprint for finding a compatible match for the long term. However, it helps to be flexible with your criteria. This means being open to characteristics that don’t impact your long-term compatibility; ie: height or hair color. While you may believe your perfect match must be 6 foot tall with golden, brown eyes, your ideal partner may only be 5”11 with hazel eyes.
Be Optimistic
People who are the most open-minded and optimistic have the highest success rate. This follows the law of attraction; you attract what you believe. If you believe you will meet the right one, you have already increased your odds. To have an enjoyable and successful dating experience, you must have a positive mindset. You might have many ups and downs throughout your dating journey, but your mindset is the one thing you can control. Make a promise to yourself that whatever happens, you will choose to have an optimistic perspective. Rather than react to uncomfortable circumstances, learn to embrace them, because these will be the most beneficial in your long-term growth as a person.
In Closing
If you need further guidance, Ambiance Matchmaking is one of the most experienced matchmakers in the industry. We can help singles find the right matchmaker for their needs. Simply contact us with any questions or complete an application to be considered for membership. We are always here to help.