You hear people complain about their dating situation, a lot. I use to be one of those people. I was living in a small American town. I loved the city, loved my friends, but hated my dating situation. I went on a slew of dates from Tinder and Bumble, friend setups, tennis activities, and the like.
Every single situation played out the same. I would go on 3-6 dates with someone, only to have it fizzle into never-ever land. It seemed that every guy was only interested in spending his free time “unwinding from a super stressful workweek.” Unfortunately, unwinding meant doing mind-numbing activities like watching football and drinking beer.
I like spending my free time doing things that are mentally stimulating and/or physically challenging. Needless to say, I never came in contact with a possible match.
One day, my best friend asked if I wanted to move to Mexico and live with her in the posh Polanco neighborhood. Basically, it’s the Beverly Hills of Mexico City. This moment was one of the best things that ever happened to me, and it changed my life forever.
You never know how a city can impact your dating life.
For three long, dreary years, I thought something was wrong with me. That town completely deflated my confidence and left me feeling hopeless that I’d ever find my person.
Mexico saved me.
I met so many interesting, lively singles from Latin America and across the globe. They told me stories, invited me to events, and introduced me to their friends. They wanted to do things in their spare time that were stimulating and challenging. My world was changed.
Within two weeks of arriving in Mexico City, I met my boyfriend. That was six years ago, and we’re still together today.
Moving to a new city saved my confidence and introduced me to my person.
Yet you never hear anyone say, “I’m moving to increase my odds of finding love.”
Rather, you hear people say “I’m moving because I got a new job offer!” or “I’m moving to be closer to my parents” or “I’m moving to Mexico for the sunshine and low cost of living!”
These are also valid reasons to relocate, but don’t you think it’s also a valid reason to move to a place where you’re more likely to find your life partner?
Yet, nobody does it!
The average person believes that love will just happen when it’s meant to happen. We’ve all heard the famous saying, love happens when you least expect it. Society literally tells us not to look for love, because love only happens when you’re not looking for it… when you least expect it.
So, what happens when singles don’t position themselves in optimum conditions to find love?
Singles choose their life partner based on market opportunities, not preferences.
The average person will choose their life partner, the person with whom they will spend on average 60 years, by responding to market conditions. In other words, singles choose their partners based on whatever local pool of options is available.
However, society is changing and some are broadening their candidate pool. People are using online dating, professional matchmakers, and going to more social events…
… but there’s still so much more one can do to be successful in love and that includes positioning yourself in an optimal environment. Be one of the very few who make a decision to move for love.
There are cities in the world where you are statistically more likely to find love.
That is because certain cities have a better love infrastructure, including factors such as:
- More singles.
- Equal male-to-female ratio, making your odds much better.
- More singles in their prime, meaning they are ready for a committed relationship or marriage.
- Welcoming LGBT+ community, allowing individuals equal opportunities in love.
- Openness to other cultural backgrounds.
- Better infrastructure and more social opportunities, making it easier to meet people.
- Positive attitude toward love and sex.
- Higher percentage of singles on dating apps, making it easier to connect.
- Reasonable cost of dating.
Movinga conducted an extensive study on this topic.
The study analyzes 100 in-demand cities around the world which are popular for employment and cultural opportunities in order to determine if they are good for finding love. While love is defined in a myriad of ways around the globe, the study concentrates on long-term, romantic love focusing on two main categories: love infrastructure and romance.
Love infrastructure analyzes the potential to find a (new) partner in the respective city. This includes, aside from the proportion of singles by age groups, the possibilities for people from the LGBT+ community to freely express their love, as well as the chances for expats to find a partner.
Romance examines the dating experience in the cities. It explores how easy it is to find a date and how open-minded a city is.¹
Alas, the top 10 cities in the world with the best love infrastructure:
- Miami, United States – 58.77% of the people surveyed in this city are single and 30.95% are divorced.
- London, United Kingdom – 57.14% single and 34% divorced.
- Gothenburg, Sweden – 58.99% single and 55.36% divorced.
- Paris, France 55.82% single and 33.85% divorced.
- New York, United States – 57.36% single and 18.32% divorced.
- Stockholm, Sweden – 61.03% single and 64.56% divorced.
- Barcelona, Spain – 47.69% single and 25.6% divorced.
- Chicago, United States – 62.83% single and 21.61% divorced.
- San Francisco, United States – 58.44% single and 19.96% divorced.
- Berlin, Germany – 58.37% single and 56.13% divorced.
Of course, these are just stats. Mexico City is number 58 on the list, which is not very high, yet somehow I found my person there. The point is, there is a place in the world that might be your perfect fit; culturally, intellectually, and aesthetically, and there may very well be a special person, that is also your perfect fit, waiting for you there.
For the full report of the top 100 cities in the world with the best love infrastructure, go to The Best Cities For Love by Movinga.
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